We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars. Oscar Wilde
I'm a pisces. Happy one minute... pensive and serious the next. Bryce says 'you never know who you're going to get'. I say 'predictable is boring'. (this could go on) We all have qualities about ourselves that are great, and ones that are not so great. What you choose to focus on, is entirely up to you.
It's like wanting to buy a certain brand of car. You've never really noticed them before but now that you want one... you see them everywhere. You can talk about all of the great things about them, how perfect it is for you. At every stop light, at every corner, you park beside them, you pass them... they are everywhere. You think, Crazy! Everyone has one! But, maybe they were always there... you just never noticed them until you became aware of them. Or until you changed your focus to see them.
I am probably the most annoying person on the planet, if you want me to be. If you sat and gossiped about all of my faults you might convince someone that I'm not a good person. However, if you chose to notice my positive traits, and focused on them... you might see me entirely differently. I might walk into my house, and see Bryce doing something that bugs me. Maybe he's buying more Lucky Louie's, maybe he's wearing his shoes in the house... if I immediately choose to focus on those things, I might miss that he has just been playing with sticker books, and puzzles on the living room floor for an hour with our little girl. I might miss that he is giving Maisie a bath wearing crazy safety glasses just to make her laugh. If I focus on the negative, I'll never see the positive. In anything, ever.
So, I challenge myself daily, to look for the good. To seek out beauty. If I think the world is a dark, miserable gray place... it is. But, if I look outside and see gray as a mystic West Coast wonderland... it is. They are my eyes, it is my choice. Does it always work? Nope... but I'm a work in progress, and it's getting easier.
That's just the way I see it. (Thanks to Thelma for the images of me in Haida Gwaii)